Yeah, I know that feeling, lol. I am 30 something and I am just getting hornier every year, lol.
They invented viagra for men, maybe they should invent something to stop horniness for women who have no lovers or lovers who don't have a sex drive as high as us.
I hear every where that it's women who don't want sex, my wife just doesn't want it as often, or my girlfriends sex drive diminished etc. If we are the feeble ones, than why do they need viagra?
Men do not realize, women need romance and the right mood, they need playfulness and to know we are loved, that puts us in the mood, the more you make us love you the more we want you. Men stop being romantic and charming once they know we fell for them, when it's the romantic charming you that turns us on.
They get lazy and sloppy and cheap. Cheap is not bad, every relationship needs a budget, but the laziness and sloppiness, blah.
And the romance doesn't have to involve money. A little note saying "I love you" or "you looked so beautiful this morning" anything kind and sweet, a phone call saying I miss you, I am thinking of you. An ecard with an erotic image, say I want to make love to you so much tonight. Make a little effort guys. Don't just blame us for letting our selfs go or loosing our sex drive. We usually let our selfs go because we have too much to do, kids, laundry, house work, by the time we are done at the of the day we dream of having a hot bath and a foot rub just to relax. Or even a hug, say thank you baby for doing all you do... even if the house isn't like it used to be, be considerate and caring. You won't get anything by crawling in bed after being self centered or criticized her or walked in and comment "what have you been doing all day, this place looks terrible" is she supposed to feel amorous after that?
If she is working outside of the home and coming home and still doing all the house work it's the same as working 2 full time jobs. Show a little appreciation, give her a back rub, bring her a flower, send her a ecard... All we want to know is that we are loved and no matter what the outcome is at the end of the day, we want to know that you appreciate our efforts to "do it all"
Drop the kids of at grandmas, hire a baby sitter and take her out for a date, set the table with candles and flowers and make her a dinner, if you can't cook... order out and pick it up and put it nicely on plates by the candle lights.
Romance is crucial, in every relationship, no matter how long you have been together. no matter how much intimacy you have lost, you can get it all back just by treating her "like the woman you love" not expecting her to just be a robot, because that's a woman's job.
Thinking like that, is the source of most marriages failing. Couples growing apart, getting depressed, being unhappy, longing for something that is not there... well, it's there, if you only open your eyes and make the effort. Bring back the days of when you met, put the sparkle back in her eyes, and the spark will start glowing for both of you.
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